A fair share of the horror stories I hear come from England. So how wonderful is it that NHS England has issued the most well-informed, high-standard instructions we could wish for.
And no wonder. It was written by some of our top experts. And it is actually now government policy!
It’s all in a 102-page document entitled “Access and Waiting Time Standard for Children and Young People with an Eating Disorder. Commissioning Guide” which I’ll summarise for you here in plain language. This is truly great stuff AND there’s money behind it too.
For those of us not in England, this is a model worth copying.
A common source of discouragement from parents is this: “I know I should be kind, and calm, and confident, and compassionate, but so many times I just can’t.”
Well, that’s us just being human. This extreme parenting thing can’t be done 100% all the time, and it certainly can’t be done on our own through sheer willpower. We need fuelling for ourselves. We need compassion and understanding and hand-holding.
My book gives you the why and the how of compassion. My new audio resources help you actually experience the power that lies with a compassionate state, so you can shift yourself into a state closer to wellbeing.
I’ve made changes to Chapter 13 – the one with the compassionate communication tools.
I’ve learned so much more about addressing feelings, about making good use of the body, and about making self-compassion work. It’s all in there.
Do check out the links I provide: I point you to some fantastic resources on the web, and in books.
Some of them could soothe you and sustain you, a little bit at a time, every day.
In this post I asked people for comments on a new cover. This new cover is now out.
Video resources I have found very helpful to build me up fast when I’ve been knocked down. Later I developed my own resources (available on this website), especially for parents in our situation.
Thanks to the many contributors to my book.
The essentials for a parent who wants immediate answers: what are the main principles of the treatments covered in this book, and how long before you can expect some relief?
This is Chapter 4 of my book.
When your child is in recovery from an eating disorder, you may decide she’s safe enough to go on a school trip. At the same time, there’s an element of risk. What if 10 days away from your supervision is just too much? What if she eats without anxiety but not enough to compensate for all the physical activity?
When my daughter was in this situation, I prepared a flow chart to help me discuss measures with the teacher in charge of the trip. I offer it to you here to help you get started.
Teamwork between parents and teachers helps children with eating disorders benefit from school.
I imagine that staff in schools all over the world have a desire to contribute to a child and a family’s wellbeing. If this is not what you’re seeing, the key to removing obstacles is communication. Engage key teachers in understanding the issues and priorities for your child. Discuss how they can support her with study, friends and eating.
Of course, it might not be right for your child to be in school at all, and I discuss this in my book.
But let’s assume your child is reasonably well, and would benefit from being in school if the right support was in place.
It’s time for an in-depth discussion with the Head, the relevant teachers and support teachers.
In case you’re feeling stressed, here is a checklist of points you might like to raise.
How common are eating disorders? I haven’t put this in my book, but I’ll give you some figures here in case you need it to convince your school or other authorities that eating disorders are anything but rare and that resources need to be allocated to them.