Resources for Compassionate Communication
The founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), also called ‘Compassionate Communication‘, is psychologist Dr Marshall B Rosenberg. You can learn NVC by reading his books or any of the books published by PuddleDancer Press.
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org) is the central place for all resources, including where to find CNVC Certified Trainers, and local groups.
I am not a certified trainer: I am writing here from my experience and my own understanding of NVC after attending many courses and spending many years living the principles the best I can. I hope I’ve whetted your interest and that you will learn more from sources certified by the Center for Nonviolent Communication.
For a brief introduction to Compassionate Communication and its main principles, see my page here .
Chapter 13 of my book explains the principles of Compassionate Communication and the following two chapters put it very much into practice.
I can also coach you to apply principles of Compassionate Communication in individual support sessions.
You can find NVC courses via www.cnvc.org.
I learned a lot in my own time through an online multimedia library called NVC Academy. It’s full of telecourse recordings and articles. Some of the trainers there have changed my life and my family’s journey, and they don’t even know it. NVC Academy works by monthly subscription, and if you’d rather buy a recording of a particular teleclass, they also run NVC Marketplace. Both continue to be a precious resource for me and I hope they suit you too.
The most obvious book to read is Nonviolent Communication: a language of life , by Marshall B Rosenberg.
I also like Being Genuine – Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real by Certified Trainer Thomas d’Ansembourg. He is Belgian, and if you read French you can read the original “Cessez d’être gentil soyez vrai : Être avec les autres en restant soi-même”.
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids – 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflicts Into Co-operation by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson is a good NVC book for parents.
There are so many more. Check the page numbers as you shop around the PuddleDancer Press list, as some are short booklets, and some are full books.
Below are links for you to buy direct from PuddleDancer Press in the US. I like to think they’ll get more money from book sales than if you go through intermediaries like Amazon.
Below are the links for Amazon
Click here for other books I’ve found helpful on the subject of wellbeing or good communication.
There is a list of quotes from Marshall B Rosenberg here.
Miki Kashtan’s blog, ‘The fearless heart’, always provides food for thought: http://baynvc.blogspot.co.uk
Search Youtube for Nonviolent Communication videos. This is a video of a workshop Marshall Rosenberg gave in 2000. Three very instructive hours.
Or you could get a flavour of NVC in international conflicts through this video interview of Marshall Rosenberg.
Note: The links for Amazon and for NVC Academy are affiliate links..