Bitesize: list of contents

Last updated on May 6th, 2020

This is the current collection. Whenever I produce more, you have access to everything. The library is highly searchable (have a play around — press Reset to clear a search) and you can also download everything for offline listening. I very much hope that dipping in and out of this collection will speed up your successes and be super-supportive.

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Last updated on May 6th, 2020

"You're not fat" doesn't reassure
200_100_Fat_reassurance_doesnt_work.mp3im-so-fatbody_image education empathy fat-fear weight

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Why "You're not fat" is only a temporary band-aid

200_200_Fat_youre_not_fat_not_recommended.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear weight

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

I'm so fat!


 

200_001_Just_a_headingim-so-fat

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Introduction to Bitesize


 

010_001_Just_a_headingintroduction

Last updated on April 29th, 2020

Take charge: the start


 

020_001_Just_a_headingtake-charge-the-start

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Take charge: your child's experience


 

030_001_Just_a_headingtake-charge-childs-experience

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Meal coaching


 

040_001_Just_a_headingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

The food


 

050_001_Just_a_headingthe-food

Last updated on April 29th, 2020

Psychology and the Mind


 

060_001_Just_a_headingpsychology-and-the-mind

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

A healthy weight


 

070_001_Just_a_headinga-healthy-weight

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Coach for 'normal' (Phase 2) after weight-restoration


 

080_001_Just_a_headingcoach-normality

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Compassionate Communication


 

100_001_Just_a_headingcommunication

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Compassionate Communication – More help


 

120_001_Just_a_headingcommunication-more

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Compassionate Communication – Troubleshooting


 

140_001_Just_a_headingcommunication-troubleshoot

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Hostility and meltdowns


 

160_001_Just_a_headinghostility-and-meltdowns

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

School


 

300_001_Just_a_headingschool

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Your wellbeing and inner strength


 

400_001_Just_a_headingyour-wellbeing

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

How parents manage


 

500_001_Just_a_headinghow-parents-manage

Last updated on April 28th, 2020

Hospital


 

600_001_Just_a_headinghospital

Our story, my experience

010_200_Our_story_My_experience.mp3introduction

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Which eating disorders will Bitesize help with?

010_600_Which_eating_disorders_are_covered.mp3introductionanorexia binge-eating-disorder bulimia

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

How about orthorexia or muscle-building compulsion?

010_700_Orthorexia_Biggorexia_Reverse_anorexia.mp3introductionbeginning evidence exercise reverse-anorexia therapist

May I share Bitesize with others?

010_500_Copyright_only_family.mp3introduction

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Don't believe everything I say

010_300_Dont_believe_me_research_disclaimer.mp3introductionbeginning evidence therapist

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

My child is too old for us to take charge

020_100_My_child_is_too_old_for_us_to_take_charge.mp3take-charge-the-start18 fbt therapist

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Should I tell my child I'm taking charge?

020_250_First_conversation_Should_you_say_youre_taking_charge.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication empathy fbt

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

“We’re taking charge”: principles

020_400_We_are_taking_charge_Principles.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication empathy fbt

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

“We’re taking charge”: set a time to talk

020_450_We_are_taking_charge_Set_a_time_to_talk.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication empathy fbt

“We’re taking charge”: but my labs are normal!

020_500_My_labs_are_normal.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication empathy fbt health medical

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

"I'll accept treatment if I don't have to gain weight"

020_550_First_conversation_weight.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication empathy fbt health weight

Our child will not accept our help

020_650_Not_accepting_help_take_charge_anyway.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication empathy fbt meal-coaching motivation rejection

How to be in your power right from the start

020_700_Difficult_conversation_power_of_love.mp3take-charge-the-startbeginning communication inspiration persistence

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

My child is 18+ and the therapist wants to promote autonomy

020_200_Child_is_18_plus.mp3take-charge-the-start18 fbt therapist

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Why your child will manage to eat

030_200_Why_your_child_will_manage_to_eat.mp3take-charge-childs-experiencebeginning fbt meal-coaching mind motivation

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

The hijacker holding a gun to your child’s head

030_300_The_hijacker_the_ED_voice.mp3take-charge-childs-experience18 beginning externalizing fbt inspiration meal-coaching mind motivation

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Walking through hell with your child

030_400_Walking_through_hell.mp3take-charge-childs-experiencebeginning fbt inspiration meal-coaching persistence

Last updated on June 10th, 2020

Is your child actually hungry?

030_500_Is_your_child_actually_hungry.mp3take-charge-childs-experiencebeginning binge cbt fbt hunger inspiration intuitive-eating meal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Be wise to the fight-flight-freeze effect of malnourishment

040_050_Fight_flight_freeze_effect_of_malnourishment.mp3meal-coachinganxiety communication empathy flexibility hostility meal-coaching mind weight

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Things we say which don’t work so well

040_100_Meal_coach_less_effective_words.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Why you should keep using direct prompts during a meal

040_150_Meal_coach_direct_prompts.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

How distraction is your friend during a meal

040_200_Meal_coach_distraction.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

How to be silent at the right moment

040_250_Meal_coach_silence.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

What should I say during a meal?

040_300_Meal_coach_role_play_Have_a_bite_Empathy.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Start off with these: direct prompts, trust, love, silence

040_350_Meal_coach__withdrawn__1__direct_prompt_love_sarcastic.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Touch, hug, spoon-feeding

040_380_Meal_coach_withdrawn_2__hugs_spoon_feeding.mp3meal-coachingempathy meal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Empathy, bringing out what’s on their mind

040_410_Meal_coach_withdrawn_3__empathy_direct_promptst.mp3meal-coachingempathy meal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Joys to look forward to, hopelessness and recap

040_440_Meal_coach_withdrawn_4__joyful_vision_hopelessness_recap.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

"I want you to eat it"

040_500_Meal_coach_You_need_this_versus_I_want_you_to_have_it.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

 Set a time-limit for the meal?

040_550_Meal_coach_A_time_limit_for_a_meal_your_choices.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Why a parent should ask themself, "Can I win one more bite?"

040_580_Meal_coach_One_more_bite.mp3meal-coachingempathy meal-coaching persistence

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

The art of ending a meal without blame

040_620_Meal_coach_End_meal_without_blame.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

Is ‘Life Stops Until You Eat’ for you?

040_650_Meal_coach_Life_Stops_Until_You_EAT_LSUYE.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching persistence

Lunchtime is lunchtime: even when your child is upset

040_700_Meal_luncthtime_is_lunchtime_no_perfect_moment.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching persistence

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

My child won’t even come to the table

040_750_Meal_coach_get_them_to_the_table.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching persistence

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

My child runs away from the table, into their room

040_780_Meal_coach_run_away.mp3meal-coachingmeal-coaching persistence

Last updated on May 6th, 2020

‘I’ll eat if you back off!’

040_840_Meal_coach_back_off.mp3meal-coachingautonomy empathy meal-coaching persistence

Last updated on April 30th, 2020

I can't get my child to eat – what's next?

040_900_Unable_to_get_your_child_to_eat.mp3meal-coachingfbt hospital meal-coaching therapist weight

How many meals, how often?

050_100_How_many_meals_and_snacks_how_often.mp3the-foodfood

How much to feed

050_200_How_much_to_feed_calories_rate_of_weight_gain.mp3the-foodfood weight

Refeeding syndrome

050_300_Refeeding_syndrome.mp3the-foodfood

What foods should I serve?

050_500_What_foods_to_serve.mp3the-foodfear-foods flexibility food weight

Last updated on September 13th, 2020

Can my child stay vegetarian/vegan?

050_700_Vegetarian_or_vegan.mp3the-foodfear-foods flexibility food weight

Last updated on June 10th, 2020

Why isn't my child getting therapy for their mind?

060_100_Therapy_for_the_mind.mp3psychology-and-the-mindanxiety depression empathy fat-fear mind psychotherapy therapist weight

Last updated on May 31st, 2020

Why is my child so withdrawn?

060_200_Why_so_withdrawn.mp3psychology-and-the-mindacceptance anxiety depression empathy hostility mind withdrawal

Last updated on May 31st, 2020

Socially isolated: what to say

060_250_Withdrawn_socially_conversations.mp3psychology-and-the-mindcommunication empathy limits mind withdrawal

Last updated on May 31st, 2020

Withdrawn in their room: allow or intervene?

060_500_Withdrawn_in_room_allow_or_intervene.mp3psychology-and-the-mind

Last updated on June 4th, 2020

Regular periods: a poor criterion

070_750_Periods_A_poor_criterion.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth therapist weight

Last updated on May 31st, 2020

Why your child needs lots more help once weight-restored

080_200_Why_needs_more_help_once_weight_restored.mp3coach-normalityafter-weight-restoration autonomy body_image exposure fbt flexibility hospital normalisation coach-for-normality relapse social-life weight

Don’t rush or skip Phase 2

080_400_Danger_of_a_rushed_phase_2.mp3coach-normalityafter-weight-restoration autonomy exposure fbt flexibility normalisation coach-for-normality relapse therapist

Last updated on May 25th, 2020

Why kindness works better than explanations

100_050_Communication_Kindness_better_than_explanations.mp3communicationcommunication

Last updated on May 25th, 2020

'Connect before you correct': a motto to keep you on track

100_100_Communication_Connect_before_you_correct.mp3communicationcommunication empathy

“I’m sorry, and I love you”: the simplest formula to connect and soothe

100_150_Communication_I_am_sorry_and_I_love_you.mp3communicationcommunication empathy self-compassion

Silent empathy: a surprisingly powerful tool

100_200_Communication_Silent_empathy.mp3communicationcommunication empathy

Offer hugs and touch

100_250_Communication_touch.mp3communicationcommunication empathy partner

A recipe for compassionate communication

100_300_Communication_framework.mp3communicationcommunication empathy medical social-life

Words to express kindness and non-judgement

100_350_Communication_words_to_show_kindness_non_judgement.mp3communicationcommunication empathy

'Yes' words to show you are listening

100_400_Communication_words_for_Yes.mp3communicationcommunication empathy therapist

Last updated on June 4th, 2020

Words to guess deeper about feelings and needs

100_450_Communication_guess_deeper_feelings__needs.mp3communicationcommunication empathy therapist

Use question marks to avoid “You have no idea how I feel"

100_500_Communication_Use_question_marks.mp3communicationcommunication empathy hostility meal-coaching

Signs of a shift to a more relaxed state

100_600_Communication_signs_of_shift_for_connect_before_you_correct.mp3communicationcommunication empathy

Give your kindness and reassurance

100_650_Communication_soothe_reassure_empower_hope.mp3communicationcommunication empathy

Logic, education and explanations

100_700_Communication_education_and_logic.mp3communicationcommunication education

Action: making suggestions and requests, problem-solving

100_750_Communication_action.mp3communicationcommunication empathy

Spectrum of requests: from Choice to No Choice

100_800_Communication_ladder_of_requests.mp3communicationcommunication empathy limits

Here's a recipe for framing a request

100_850_Communication_Recipe_for_making_a_request.mp3communicationcommunication hostility

Getting past a ‘No’

100_880_Communication_getting_past_a_No.mp3communicationcommunication empathy limits

Get your ‘But’ out of the way!

120_100_Get_your_but_out_of_the_way.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy hostility

How a 'Why' question is rarely a question

120_200_Why_why_why_not_a_request_for_information.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy hostility

What deep needs does your child want you to really hear?

120_300_Common_needs_to_validate.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy mind

Last updated on June 4th, 2020

Open questions that bring up deeper needs

120_350_Open_questions_on_needs_what_matters.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy perfectionism school

Keep tracking and validating what matters to your child

120_400_Communication_tracking_needs.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy

How to make a precise request when you dislike a behaviour

120_500_Precise_request_on_precise_situation.mp3communication-morecommunication hostility

Difficult conversation: meet obstacles with empathy

120_600_Difficult_conversation_arguments_and_empathy.mp3communication-morebody_image communication hostility relapse

We’ll try it and then review

120_700_Will_try_it_and_then_review.mp3communication-morecommunication meal-coaching

Can you share your feelings with your children?

120_800_Communication_express_your_feelings.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy mind partner shame siblings therapist

What to tell your child when they see you crying?

120_900_Communication_when_you_are_crying.mp3communication-morecommunication empathy grief mind shame

How to respond to “You’re so patronizing!”

140_100_You_are_patronizing.mp3communication-troubleshootcommunication empathy hostility

Talking about their poor health

140_300_Your_bad_heart.mp3communication-troubleshootcommunication empathy health meal-coaching medical

Why does my child reject my empathy? The invulnerable fortress

140_400_Why_does_my_child_reject_my_empathy_The_invulnerable_fortress.mp3communication-troubleshootempathy hostility mind rejection

Why does my child reject my empathy? Unworthy of love

140_450_Why_do_they_reject_our_empathy_unworthy_of_love.mp3communication-troubleshootempathy mending mind rejection self-esteem shame

‘You’re disrespecting me!’ Help your child let you in

140_600_Disrespecting_me.mp3communication-troubleshootcommunication empathy hostility meal-coaching rejection

It will pass – acceptance and limits

160_200_Hostility_pass_acceptance_limits.mp3hostility-and-meltdownsacceptance empathy hostility limits typical

Hostility: how to set your limits

160_300_Hostility_how_to_state_your_limits.mp3hostility-and-meltdownsacceptance communication empathy hostility limits self-esteem typical

How to de-escalate a meltdown

160_400_Hostility_de_escalate_and_validate.mp3hostility-and-meltdownsacceptance empathy hostility limits

Empathy after your child's meltdown

160_600_Empathy_after_a_meltdown.mp3hostility-and-meltdownsanxiety communication empathy hostility

"Get out of my room!"

160_700_Get_out_of_my_room.mp3hostility-and-meltdownsanxiety communication empathy hostility limits withdrawal

Meltdown? Connect before your correct

160_500_Meltdown_connect_before_you_correct.mp3hostility-and-meltdownsanxiety communication empathy hostility

"I'm fat": Refuse to engage

200_300_Fat_were_not_talking_about_it.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear weight

Attitude to body shape: what you are aiming at

200_400_Fat_attitude_to_body_shape_aims.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication education empathy fat-fear intuitive-eating weight

How to talk about wellbeing instead of engaging in fat talk

200_500_Fat_focus_on_wellbeing.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication education empathy fat-fear intuitive-eating weight

“I’m fat!” How empathy can get your child unstuck

200_550_Fat_empathy_and_validation.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear grief weight

"I'm fat": examples of open questions for empathy

200_600_Fat_open_questions_for_empathy.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear muscularity weight

"I'm fat": how to talk about needs to fit in and be safe from fat-bullying?

200_650_Fat_guessing_what_matters_to_your_child.mp3im-so-fatbody_image bullying communication empathy fat-fear weight

“I’m fat”: conflicting internal and external messages

200_700_Fat_trust_issue_with_conflicting_messages.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear muscularity therapist weight

Responding to “I’m fat” distress as they gain weight

200_750_Fat_empathise_with_distress_keep_going.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear weight

Last updated on June 4th, 2020

“I was happy when I was thin – I wasted all that effort!”

200_820_Fat_happy_thin_unhappy_now.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear grief weight

Logic and education around body shape

200_860_Fat_educating_on_body_shape_and_body_perception.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication education empathy fat-fear intuitive-eating weight

Last updated on June 10th, 2020

"I'm fat!" Opportunity for education on body acceptance

200_900_Fat_opportunity_to_coach_body_acceptance.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication education empathy fat-fear intuitive-eating relapse weight

Last updated on June 10th, 2020

Perfectionism and academic ambitions: how to steer your child

300_200_School_perfectionism_academic_ambitions.mp3schoolperfectionism relapse school self-esteem

“I’m getting fat so fast! It will never stop!”

200_780_Fat_fear_of_fast_exponential_gain.mp3im-so-fatbody_image communication empathy fat-fear weight

What to do about school and exam stress?

300_300_School_stress_and_exams.mp3schoolperfectionism school self-esteem

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

You are normal

400_200_Wellbeing_you_are_normal.mp3your-wellbeingresilience self-compassion

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

What to do with unhelpful thoughts – the Chatterbox

400_300_Wellbeing_chatterbox_thoughts.mp3your-wellbeingresilience self-compassion

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

Why does your child reject you and hate you?

400_600_Wellbeing_why_reject_hate_you.mp3your-wellbeinghostility rejection resilience self-compassion

Coping with your child’s rejection

400_650_Wellbeing_coping_with_rejection.mp3your-wellbeingcompassion externalizing hostility rejection resilience self-care self-compassion wellbeing

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

When parents disagree with each other

500_100_When_parents_disagree_with_each_other.mp3how-parents-managecommunication empathy partner

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

How to get my partner to do more

500_200_Get_partner_to_do_more.mp3how-parents-managecommunication empathy partner

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

Why will they eat in hospital and not at home?

600_100_Why_eating_works_in_hospital.mp3hospitalhospital

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

Will my child be fed by tube in hospital?

600_500_Tube_feeding.mp3hospitalhospital

Phase 2: How treatment continues after weight-restoration or hospital

080_100_Phase_2_overview.mp3coach-normalityafter-weight-restoration coach-for-normality

Fear foods during refeeding

050_600_Fear_foods_during_refeeding.mp3the-foodfear-foods flexibility food weight

Last updated on June 4th, 2020

How to validate feelings and needs

100_550_Communication_words_for_validation_of_feelings_and_needs.mp3communicationcommunication empathy therapist

You don’t understand how hard it is

140_500_You_dont_understand_how_hard_it_is.mp3communication-troubleshootcommunication empathy meal-coaching mind

Last updated on May 5th, 2020

The best psychological tools for these extraordinary times

400_050_Wellbeing_psychological_tools_extraordinary_times.mp3your-wellbeingresilience self-compassion

Welcome: what you’ll find in Bitesize

010_100_Welcome_what_youll_find_in_Bitesize.mp3introduction

Self-care to avoid burnout and model wellbeing

400_800_Wellbeing_self_care_resilience_burnout.mp3your-wellbeingmodelling resilience self-care self-compassion wellbeing

Your motto: compassionate persistence

030_350_Compassionate_persistence-motto.mp3take-charge-childs-experiencecompassion empathy fbt meal-coaching persistence

I was desperate for my parents to feed me

030_050_Desperate_for_parents_feed_metake-charge-childs-experience18 autonomy beginning fbt inspiration meal-coaching mind

Find your way around Bitesize

010_400_Find_your_way_around_Bitesize.mp3introduction

A full recovery: why awful statistics are out of date

020_750_Full_recovery_awful_stats.mp3take-charge-the-startevidence inspiration relapse therapist

Last updated on June 10th, 2020

Intro: how full weight recovery is essential

070_010_Weight_r_intro_biology.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth relapse weight

Weight is more like shoe size than hair style

070_100_Weight_r_shoe_size_hair_sleep.mp3a-healthy-weightfat-fear health mind muscularity relapse therapist weight

Start on weight gain NOW. Worry about targets later.

070_150 Weight_r_start_priority.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth mind muscularity weight

Previously ‘overweight’? Weight gain is still the early priority

070_200_Weight_r_previous_overweight.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth weight

The need for body fat, not just muscle

070_250_Weight_r_body_fat_not_muscle.mp3a-healthy-weightfat-fear health mind muscularity weight

Weight-restoration is not sufficient

070_300_Weight_r_necessary_not_sufficient.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth mind coach-for-normality weight

How announcing a weight goal might be positive

070_450_Weight_r_tell_target_goal_pros.mp3a-healthy-weightfat-fear therapist weight

Poor mental state: need more weight or more time?

070_600_Weight_r_more_weight_or_time.mp3a-healthy-weightmind coach-for-normality psychotherapy weight

Overshoot: extra weight might be essential for healing

070_650_Weight_r_overshoot.mp3a-healthy-weightbinge hunger mind therapist weight

'But my kid is/was overweight'

070_700_Weight_r_overweight.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth weight

Last updated on July 16th, 2020

How to use a growth chart to estimate a goal weight

070_800_Weight_r_growth_chart_instructions.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth weight

Is that weight target a gift to the eating disorder?

070_830_Weight_r_compare_2_methods.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth mind therapist weight

What does BMI or 100% weight-for-height mean?

070_860_Weight_r_BMI_Weight_for_height_definition.mp3a-healthy-weighthealth therapist weight

How announcing a weight goal might create problems

070_400_Weight_r_tell_target_goal_cons.mp3a-healthy-weightfat-fear therapist weight