WORKSHOP: Grow stronger – Tools for your own wellbeing

$41.00


Last updated on July 21st, 2021

The price is flexible: see below

Why this workshop?

For the title of this session, I have played with words like "resilience", and "for your child's sake", "coping", "surviving", and even "thriving" and "wisdom". Why? Because I am pretty sure that almost all parents struggle with their own wellbeing, yet many book onto every workshop except this one.

  • When we are barely coping we protect ourselves from getting even more hurt. If that's you, I want to assure you I take great care to guard against that. Also  you can leave any time and get a refund.
  • Taking care of ourselves is way down our priorities. Yet it makes us stronger, more courageous, more able to be both compassionate and persistent with our children. It also gives them a model of how to be well.
  • We imagine that self-care means obvious stuff that we don't have time for, like bubble baths. How irritating! I will introduce you to psychological tools that take no time.

As parents we have a huge role to play in our child's eating disorder treatment. It's demanding and it's emotional and stretches us in ways we've never had to cope with before. We get told to 'take care of ourselves' but that's so vague it makes some of us feel so alone. We don't have the time or energy to do what used to nourish us. Yet we know that we have to find ways of being well, because our children need us, and also because we are modelling for them what good living can be like.

I researched resources for resilience and emotional wellbeing when I was in this situation, then some more when writing Chapter 15 of my book. They are based in psychology, traditional wisdoms, personal experience and what has helped other parents.

The aim of this workshop is to bring some of these resources to life as I describe them and demonstrate them, so that you can perhaps experience some immediate wellbeing and see what you might enjoy using on a regular basis.

More details

This is not a therapy group — I am not a therapist. This particular workshop isn't about how you can help your child (I propose other workshops for that), it's about you. Having said that, when you experience how a tool can help you, you may well find you can guide your child to use it too.

Content of the workshop

One and a half hour led by myself:

  • First, brief introductions to make you feel welcome and connected to everyone — feeling you're with like-minded souls is a benefit of groups . However those of you who are Zoom-shy will be able to stay in the background throughout.
  • I take you through the most powerful tools, which I have seen parents find most helpful.
  • And we make time for any of you who would like to share your experiences and what helps you.
  • Then you can leave, or stay on for the following:

Another half hour follows for parent chat

  • You're welcome to stay on in small groups for another half hour, so you can chat freely. Some parents really like the warmth and connection. If you need me during that time, you can call me into the room.

Dates

The calendar above should show you a choice of dates and times. You are welcome to come to just one workshop, or to several.

Who is it for?

This is for people who support someone with an eating disorder. As this is about your own wellbeing, this workshop should be applicable to you, whatever the type of eating disorder. My field of knowledge is mostly around children/teens with anorexia or similar.

Limitations of the workshop: READ THIS FOR YOUR CHILD'S SAFETY

This is parent-to-parent coaching and sharing of experiences. This workshop does not replace the expertise of clinicians — for yourself if you are unwell, and of course for your child.

Don't blindly take advice from anyone in the group, including me. There is not enough time in a workshop to know anyone's individual situation well enough, and none of us are clinicians. Pay attention to your instincts, read and consult widely. If, as I hope, your child is in treatment, keep the clinicians in the loop if you are considering changing anything you're doing for your child as a result of the workshop.

Pricing: making it affordable to absolutely anyone

Notice that you can choose the currency that suits you.

In this unequal world, I want everyone to have the knowledge to help their child, whatever their finances. I'm pricing this workshop so as to cover my tech costs, have an income and most of all, be able to make it affordable for those who would not otherwise come.

In this way, those of you who can pay full price are contributing to those who can't.

To pay less, no explanations needed – just use a 'coupon' on the checkout page:

  • If you choose to pay 80%, the coupon is workshop80
  • If you choose to pay 75%, the coupon is workshop75
  • And so on, in increments of 5. I'm not offering lower than 15% to try and reduce the risk of intruders. If you'd rather not pay at all, I can book you in manually.

No cost for other family members, as it takes a village to help our children. So any adult family members (partners, grandparents, aunts/uncles) can piggy-back onto your booking — just book for yourself and give them the booking info.

Tips and rules to keep everyone comfortable: PLEASE READ

You're going to be well looked after in the meeting — that's my intention. Apologies if the following sounds fierce: it's to make sure everyone is OK.

  • Confidentiality: any personal stuff said in the group stays in the group. No recording, photographing or screenshots.
  • Everyone's video must be ON, at least at the start. This is to help us know that every participant is genuine, so everyone feels safe and private. If you don't have video then this workshop is not for you. If you're not sure you can make video work, you can practice on https://zoom.us/test
  • Find a private space where your children cannot listen in, as the adults must speak freely. If you think children might eavesdrop, use earphones.
  • To respect everyone's time, we start on time, so please aim, as much as you can, to get onto Zoom at least 5mn early, and you can make yourself a nice cuppa and grab a notepad while in the 'waiting room'.
  • Apart from the above rules, everything is an 'invitation'. Feel free to not do something, for instance you can stay quiet, and you can ask to not be included in any smaller group. You can of course click to leave the meeting any time. If anything didn't feel right, please contact me so I don't do it again.
  • Preferably use a big screen as you might find Zoom group meetings on a mobile phone awkward. Position your camera and set up the lighting so you can be seen well (I find this stops me from squinting and makes me more comfortable!)
  • In Zoom, your name is displayed: you can 'rename' yourself (the menu is on the 3 dots)
  • Tears and emotions totally have a place in our group. I want you to feel comfortable and safe. If you really want to leave you can just click to leave the meeting. You can come back on later.
  • If you know you can't attend the full length of time, you're still welcome. If you have to join the meeting late, that's not ideal of group cohesion but we can live with it.

Using Zoom: where to find the link

When you've gone through the checkout you will see a confirmation screen giving you the zoom link as Join Meeting. I propose you keep hold of it right away. You can also click to add the date to your calendar, and the zoom link will be included.

You will also receive an email with the date and zoom link (Join Meeting )

If you're not familiar with Zoom, feel free to try out the Zoom link right now. I've  also written instructions for a laptop/PC here, and for a phone (and I don't recommend you do this workshop on a phone) here.

Cancellations and refunds

I appreciate you only booking if you are pretty sure you can attend (it's OK to book at the last minute if you're not sure). This will save me admin work.

If something comes up that prevents you from attending, get in touch and tell me if you would like a refund or to move you to another workshop date. If you'd like a refund, I will hold back 10% or a minimum of £3. This is to account for my time and for the processing fees which I cannot get back from the credit card/paypal companies. Should you be dissatisfied with the workshop then I will refund you.

If I have to cancel I will of course give you a full refund, or if you prefer, move you to another date.

 

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