The YouTube videos I created for you will help you learn very fast how you can help your child to eat in spite of the eating disorder, and what to do at mealtimes. There are also videos to help parents or clinicians be better informed, and there are audios to help frazzled parents get back into wellbeing and compassion.
Note that there is even more help in my Bitesize audio collection
Bitesize: the audio collection
Quick listens that guide you through from start to finish. Details here.
How do I actually get my child to eat if he or she has an eating disorder? (The bungee-jump video!)
A very popular video, which parents tell me really helped them!
In my book there is an entire chapter offering principles to enable you to help your child to eat, based on a bungee-jumping analogy. Because it's likely that with anorexia and some other eating disorders, people experience a lot of fear when they are asked to eat. And similar principles apply to preventing over-exercising, purging and so on. This is a favourite of quite a few parents so I created this 5 minute video covering two of the principles. Which are about the use of logic and about being someone who inspires trust.
In other languages too
There is a version of the bungee jump video with captions in Spanish (thanks to Laura Colivoro and her eating disorders website in Spanish www.fueranorexia.com). We're hoping to do this for other videos too and the playlist for videos with Spanish captions is here.
And we're working on captions in German. The playlist will be here.
And in French, we have some videos that are actually in French, as I am bilingual: here's the playlist
The playlist with all my videos in English is here.
Mealtime coaching: what to do when my child is stuck, not eating?
Your child (whatever their age) seems stuck part-way through a meal, or at the start, or close to the end. How long should you keep him or her at the table? What about incentives and leverage/sanctions? What to do about the missing calories? Should you be offering alternative foods or be a brick wall? And what about an approach many parents swear by: "Life stops until you eat (LSUYE")?
This 20mn video outlines a wide range of approaches, to empower you to make wise, informed decisions, depending on your situation at this moment. You might be at the re-feeding stage or you might be doing exposure and desensitisation work on foods which your child used to eat but has been avoiding for a while — there's lots about these tasks in my book.
I've also dubbed this video in French:
Two videos on the crucial topic of weight
Crucial, because you can't get recovery without real weight recovery. These aim to inform both parents and clinicians, as there are some outdated notions still going around.
This one is about what NOT to do: 'What is a BMI or '% Weight-for-Height' target, and how wrong it could be'
and this one, 'Growth charts and goal weights made simple: eating disorder recovery', guides you to use a better method, and what to do when you don't have the data to use it. It also tells you how to not blindly follow that method.
The most outdated treatments are still alive and well in parts of the world
An account from parents from a town in Switzerland in English. (The great news is that things are changing thanks to their – and another family's – work! And that some of Switzerland's treatment is excellent.)
and also in a series of videos in French: the French playlist is here.
7 steps to get someone with anorexia to eat
About the book
What's in the book, and who is it for? This video not only gives you an overview of the book, but a guide to how you may manage various aspects of your child's eating disorder.
and this video is a short testimonial about the book, from a parent.
Peace, compassion and courage: a meditation guide for parents (Audio 1)
This 27 minute audio is designed to help you access a state of compassion for yourself and for your child. It is part meditation, part teaching. I have produced a version (Audio 2) that will help you have a good night's sleep straight after.
Short guided compassion meditation for parents (Audio 3)
This 7 mn audio contains a few prompts, punctuated by silence to give you time to self-connect. If that's still too much talk and not enough silence, I've done one of those too (Audio 4).
Like the meditations? You can buy a download here
Individual support for parents
An overview of the individual support/coaching/counselling that I offer parents.
And here's a testimonial from a parent who got individual support from me:
More details on individual support here.
The surprising truth about care for parents and partners
Tabitha Farrar interviews me for one of her great podcasts. I talk about what it's really like for many parents, and what is actually helpful. You may be sick of hearing how you should take care of yourself, and I hope this will give you understanding, solace, and a vision of what you truly need to keep going (1 hour). Listen here.
The Hero's Journey
The Hero's Journey is a template for most big stories of hardship and transformation to a bigger, meaningful, thriving ending. This video aims to support you with acceptance, courage, and an openness to whatever resources may be available to you.
Be inspired by this 'Can-Do' eating disorders service
How a health service in the UK set up an effective eating disorders service that really addresses families' needs.
This interview is for parents and clinicians anywhere in the world, who seek ideas or encouragement to get better services in their area. It will be particularly useful to clinicians and managers in England, who are currently under pressure to implement the new NHS standards for children and adolescents with an eating disorder. For those of you NOT in England, this will give you a glimpse of the kinds of standards you could be campaigning for in your own area. This is an interview of Lydia Goodrum and Dr Sarah Maxwell, in March 2016, about the Community Eating Disorders Service of Great Yarmouth and Waveney, part of the Norfolk and Suffolk NHS Foundation Trust.
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